[Update] Just got my heart broken. Thanks for the support everyone, but I think I just have to give up on him.

willford · 3 days

I'm not mad at HIM for giving me "false hope", but the god/universe...whatever. It sounds illogical, but romantic politics tend to be that way. I had made peace with not having a shot with him and then quite literally a day later he asked me out. The timing of it is just making me take it all a bit harder.

I know that I have him on a pedestal, and I feel pathetic for doing it (though I feel like most of is so hard to control). I'm not sure how I will stop it, right now I'm just trying my best to calm down and happily move on with my life if it's possible.

Thanks for all your input :)

willford · 14 days

Wow, that was just....wow. Thank you so much for the detailed advice! I don't know how much I can translate to into real life considering how shy I am, but I have to save this for posterity :)

willford · 14 days

Maybe a friendship though, right? I don't want to him to be uncomfortable around me, or avoidant.

willford · 15 days

I'm terrible at flirting! I am always too concerned about coming off too strong, so instead I come off as if I just want to be friends, or completely aloof. How can I...well...learn how to flirt?

Also, I'm so scared of texting him because I'm not sure if he'll ever text back. He's super uncommunicative with everyone. I'm sure I'll see him next week for another event, so what if I invited him to a movie or something then?

Thanks for the suggestions and help :)

willford · 15 days

That would be great if I could work up the courage.

I did text him afterwards thanking him for dinner, but he never replied unfortunately. It's not too worrying because he tends to be uncommunicative, but it's still not a good sign.

The main reason I'm hesitant about doing something like that is that he could very well be taking things slow for a reason - to treat an 8 year friendship gently. Something I would if I was in his place.

But honestly, I could be making up excuses, and I'm not sure what else I can do to show him that I like him short of calling him and doing what you've said.

unicornclub · 1 month

Thank you so much for asking this question. I'm having the same problem, as a 19 year female college student. I never used to give a fuck, but suddenly at college I care about what other people think of me. That's made me go from this awesome kid who could make friends easily, to some socially awkward, drama-magnet of a freak.

What happened, and how can I go back to not giving a fuck.....?

Xzumo · 1 month

Just out of curiosity are you male or female? My sister is having the same problem with her best friend, who is straight, whereas my sister herself is bi.

RaygunAlmighty · 1 month

I hope no one takes this the wrong way, but something about that puppy reminds me of Jerry Stiller...

mmmchiken0 · 2 months

Why do honest questions get downvoted? Yes, I think he's referring to blood plasma.

Timewinders · 2 months

Snape wasn't friendzoned. http://www.reddit.com/r/harrypotter/comments/rbj9x/snapes_ring_found_in_rpics_thought_it_belonged/c44iuhe

(As explained by a potterhead)

VegetasBalls · 2 months

Antisocial. Unless the fucker is actively bombing public places, he or she is Asocial.

Snazzyduck · 2 months

Well now I'm sharing a computer with someone, and they don't want me to install Skype. But it's all good, thanks for asking. Did you change your username, because I got a little confused at first :)

I'm glad you're trying to get everything together, same for me here. I was wondering how you knew about my childhood friend, but I realized I posted a thread on it! Well, nothing's changed, so I'm still upset about. I guess I just have to accept it a move on.

Thanks for checking up on me, much appreciated.

JiveMonkey · 2 months

Imma put my paw in your face!

Snazzyduck · 2 months

Hi! Unfortunately no :(

But how is that chat thing going? How are you doing as well?

willford · 2 months

Thank you for the suggestions. I think I may have overstated that he is the only person who makes me happy, that's not quite it. I think I always feel like something...something...is missing no matter how much fun I'm having somewhere else. It always goes back to him for some reason. I guess he fills the void I feel when I go about day to day life.

Also, I'm battling with whether I should risk a friendship. I think losing him altogether would be much harder on me than him simply not being around.

whoviancc · 2 months

You mean the girl?

willford · 3 months

Thank you for writing all that out, it was very informative. I do think my depression is caused by insecurities, but this will be very helpful if I very feel lonely or closed off.

willford · 3 months

You're comment prompted me to provide some context about my depression. I don't want to be presumptuous, but I think might be happening to me. But I don't know :(.

normanrosenthal · 3 months

I know this may trivial, but is there a deeper reason for procrastination? I also was wondering whether there was a psychological "antidote" to combat feelings of jealousy and envy. Thank you for your time!

willford

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