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Racist joke from 1923 by CatCuddlesin WTF

[–]vajorie 4 points5 points ago

So he left the knife in the chicken? I don't get it..

I feel unloved, secondary, and completely lost. Help me. by peacebonein polyamory

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

I don't think that's a very good idea, as the pressure he feels is the feedback you are giving him and he needs that (regardless of whether he's aware of it) to be able to please you. Worse, the more you let go, the more he might think you're okay with everything, hence spending less time with you because of the new relationship excitement, which would put you in a very bad vicious cycle where you get stuck in your head thinking of worse and worse things.

Talk to him about wanting more sex. There's nothing wrong with that. He's slacking on providing you with himself, as it seems.

You want him to change to some degree: you want him to behave differently so that you can perceive more clearly that you are still important to him. Nothing wrong with that either.

The part about him opening up might be difficult. Men usually can't open up easily, and not easily at all when one sees that opening up hurts the other in the process. Unsure what to do there, but why do you feel like that about his OSO, which you call "girl 2"? She is his other significant person after all, part of his, hence your life.

[Question] Mutual vicious cycle, how to stop / alleviate? by vajoriein sex

[–]vajorie 1 point2 points ago

[Just to remind myself of this: another redditor suggested elsewhere that a better way to check whether the other person is enjoying it might help ("how's it going down there, hotty?" type banter-like lines rather than a "are you enjoying it?" that might break the mood]

I feel unloved, secondary, and completely lost. Help me. by peacebonein polyamory

[–]vajorie 6 points7 points ago

Do you want him to be your best friend, or do you want to be his only real friend? Or, do you want to be his primary, or do you want her to be and stay as his secondary?

Nonetheless,

I feel like I've lost my best friend.

Talk to him (them? maybe) about what makes you feel this way. In these conversations, try to separate your negative feelings (from your singular / monopoly status in his life being challenged, by the nature of their relationship, by his OSO) from what he is actually doing wrong. Try to find ways in which he can help you feel like you are very important to him.

I'm cleaning, working, I feel like his mom.

(Tell him about this, then) Give him a chore list and tell him to do things on that list every X day.

He can't wrap his head around differentiating between primary and secondary relationships. He thinks it's unfair.

I'm one of those who thinks this is unfair too, so hopefully someone else will provide helpful answers from the other perspective :) Good luck, and don't give up on him.

Why Can't Girls be More Obvious with their Intentions? by redsoxrule995in AdviceAnimals

[–]vajorie -4 points-3 points ago

Obvious rape reference on this submission makes sense.

Super basic camera app that allows manual control of ISO, shutter speed, aperture, etc? by Caticornin androidapps

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

Photographers use neutral density filters, iso value, and the aperture setting to restrict how much light can get in even when the shutter is open so that they won't get what you are getting (overexposure). Also, during long exposures, you will need a tripod (or something that acts as a tripod) to avoid camera shake and I think that's a bit difficult with a phone. you might wanna invest in a cheap used camera from ebay instead?..

Which anti theft application (if any) do you use and why? by McStabYouin Android

[–]vajorie 1 point2 points ago

prey, simply because I would feel guilty if I weren't using one if the phone was stolen...

What do you guys think of System76? by t3hcoolnessin linux

[–]vajorie 2 points3 points ago

I got a pangolin from them about 1,5 years ago. Works fine, so never needed the customer support, but I kept hearing good things about them while doing my research. If I need another laptop, I'd have it from them again.

Man's Best Friend by zrockstarin AdviceAnimals

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

Nah, we just really missed lawyer dog.

Canon fixes the 5D3 Lightleak with tape. by MKCardwellin photography

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

unless it starts coming out of wherever you stick it on, in which case you now have stickiness everywhere.

[question] Removing the left-side items from the reddit header by vajoriein Enhancement

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

thanks, and sorry about that...

Case for HSPA+ Model (Size Difference an Issue?) by pyther24in GalaxyNexus

[–]vajorie -1 points0 points ago

side note: nexus one's pouch is too small for gnexus.

Downloading pics from subreddit using cli by vajoriein commandline

[–]vajorie[S] 0 points1 point ago

lol just /r/aww

Google wants you to destroy Opera Browser. by Matthoin technology

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

great, one more thing I can get addicted to.

Man Accidentally Uses Google to Suck Money From Self by fitzroy95in technology

[–]vajorie 4 points5 points ago

No but it really provides an interesting way to use google for attacking websites (or, website owners?)... Though I'm not sure how well it would work for small-scale domains (the guy talks about google limiting bandwidth usage for some websites).

Teacher Evaluation Day by compgeek07in fffffffuuuuuuuuuuuu

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

So surely it is your job to learn.

Backround of memes by jerommimoin AdviceAnimals

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

I shouldn't have clicked the link... memes, ruined.

Somebody please help me... by notbrokebrokenheartein Anxiety

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

I wish I had 5 minutes in a room by myself with her to beat the shit out of her.

You, my fellow redditor, are quite a bit scarier than that sister.

I had a really frustrating argument with my boyfriend last night. I really want to rant, but you're welcome to weigh in on the situation as well. by wtf_throwaway_in TwoXChromosomes

[–]vajorie 5 points6 points ago

I'm not addressing the part about you supposedly wanting a breadwinner because that part is too transparent --he's feeling insecure, and projecting that onto you using that argument.

You want him to get a job, find him to be irresponsible (which would stir up his insecurities about his masculinity and make him unable to articulate his anxiety in a non-aggressive manner), yet you also mention that he's unable to find a job (so he is looking for a job). Is there any other way for him to contribute / provide to the house while he is looking for a job? I think having him provide for the house using other means while he's job hunting would ease both his masculinity complex, his anxiety, and the pressure he's under (of being perceived as irresponsible, hence child-like rather than a "man").

I had a really frustrating argument with my boyfriend last night. I really want to rant, but you're welcome to weigh in on the situation as well. by wtf_throwaway_in TwoXChromosomes

[–]vajorie 2 points3 points ago

he's not providing for me really doesn't ever cross my mind

cool but then again where is he getting the idea of

well I don't like it when you make everything about me getting a job

from?

My friend has this problem by Cheesus00Crustin AdviceAnimals

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

Because..... they hire foreigners?

okay.

Installing non-installer games in PlayOnLinux - An Imgur how-to by sal_vagerin linux

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

because ..... ?

Because the "what distro should I use for my old X" is always coming up, I'm curious... what are some of the best ways to better utilize old/low end hardware? by user870in linux

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

you might wanna look at mpd and gmpc (android has mpd clients, unsure about iphone) to turn the 701 itself into a music player... (mine uses ubuntu for that + print & file server; music resides in an external drive)

May his hopes rest in peace by BabyGiraffeGirlin funny

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

jesus: familyzoned by mary.

Or keep it as the grandest dick joke ever. by dummystupidin funny

[–]vajorie 0 points1 point ago

Talk about getting religious about dicks...

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