Got this for $50 off of craigslist. Let the fun begin!

Hoodwin70 · 2012-05-27T00:29:08.990153+00:00

I hate you.

MonsieurLeBeef · 2012-05-27T00:17:51.792091+00:00

Oh, fuck off, mate.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T21:10:52.052229+00:00

This accounts two years old, but I've been here maybe a year or two before creating this one. Are you new here?

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T11:19:49.403825+00:00

If your heart, head and gut want it, then it's no choice. Otherwise debate among the three and figure out which ones have the louder voice. Differentiating between the three is an important lesson too.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T11:02:35.609124+00:00

Yea, I've missed a ghost before too. Still kinda do. Just live in the now, if that makes any sense. Past experiences will shape your gut's instincts and just focus on how you feel in this present moment, at all times. And you can steer yourself without being hung up on things that have happened or might happen. Your gut is like an auto pilot. Let that part worry about it and let your being, you, your consciousness focus totally on the present. You'll be way happier that way. There's no pain when you're not concerned with the past or present.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T10:29:17.106954+00:00

Good way to put it. I'm a hopeless romantic, but I listen to my head these days. I think of my heart as a charge of electricity. If my head is cool with it, then I'll open the valve and let my heart go nuts. And everything will be badass. Sounds like your gut just wants everything to be badass, but it can't always be like that. Your brain has to be on-board. I know it's fun to letgo, but your heart is basically your dog and your brain has it on a leash if your'e healthy and wise. Otherwise it'll take off and get runover by a car and you'll feel like shit about it. Don't worry about wasting the rush being in love gives you. Your heart can regenerate that feeling many MANY times. It doesn't diminish the value of it. It just shows you how endless and relentless it is.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T10:12:33.642642+00:00

It's easy to agree with you because I don't think god is an old white man with a white beard who hates everybody and thinks we're ants to play with. I think god is the collective conscious. The big picture we feel in our gut. Basically, the super ego. It conflicts with us as people (the ego), but over all it's what is right and best for us all, collectively. Listen to that voice. Because when you match whats out there with what's in your heart, you will lead a more peaceful life. And that's what the bible tries to tell us before it got all fucked up by charlatans (plus the old testament was sortof morbidly fucked up, think of it as a rough draft-mistake, just like the ones people make).

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T09:40:53.047702+00:00

It's up to you and how he explains it. I was and still am convinced that I changed for the better because I really wanted to be with her. But that wasn't until after losing her. Then internally I resented and understood her, back and forth. She gave up because she was sick of my bullshit. I gave up because I was sick of her moving on. I realized it was my fault and got over it. The point I'm making is, sometimes it can work out, sometimes it's the wrong time to try. When things get that fucked up and complicated, you have to get rid of this Micky Mouse Disney Land bullshit Princess/Prince dynamic and just find a fresh start. I don't know. And nobody knows. Maybe you need to get burned twice by the same guy. Maybe you need to avoid him entirely. Your gut should guide you, because it's the only voice that will always be around. Life experiences are what make it learn.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T09:30:10.412586+00:00

Since he dated you that tells me you're his type and pretty enough for him. Now that he's lonely he wants someone who is "good enough" for him. You're obviously good enough now since you were before. But you getting over him only amplifies his need. Because now you're not just some chick he wants because he's lonely. You're some chick he needs to prove he can get a chick like you.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T09:21:33.954551+00:00

You might not be, I was sortof vague about it. When a chick doesn't want me I have to prove to her that she does. Unless she doesn't know me. Then I don't really give a flying fuck.

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T02:15:49.946947-07:00

Validation and he's lonely.

TechnoTrain · 2012-05-26T09:05:50.296373+00:00

Do you have a dremel? Why not squeeze some gorrilla glue on it and shape a groove?

aydrii91 · 2012-05-26T08:53:34.819351+00:00

I've been the guy in this case. He didn't jump into a relationship out of the blue. He liked someone else while you guys were together and it didn't work out because she didn't like him the way you did. He dumped you because he didn't want to cheat on you, but it didn't work with this girl. I'm sure now he got a taste of perspective and regrets it.

In hindisght the girl I dumped her for was a total whore and retarded piece of shit. I made a bad mistake. The worst part is the girl I dumped kept trying and I was angry with her because she used other guys to move on. I called her a whore, I told her she was shit. It was fucked up and I hated myself for it.

It wasn't until she fell inlove with someone else and he moved away that I tried. Spent a year pining after her. Even wrote her a well built love letter that she said was the sweetest thing she'd ever read. But it wasn't enough. She was completely over it. That just made me want it more. I guess guys need to prove something to themselves.

It's been a long time, and I would have wanted to beat the fuck out of any of her friends who egged her on to move on. It's not always that simple. But like you said, you completely moved on. I have no answer for you, just insight into what my fuck up looked like.

For what it's worth I think about her calling me every now and then, after a bad break up asking me to have a drink with her. Just so I could tell her no, in a calm and cool way. It's all just a game for me. I don't know your ex, and it's probably fucked up of me to confuse you with personal examples. I've done this though.

crudelegend · 2012-05-26T01:39:35.667125-07:00

That second picture is good. It's like an exaggeration of what I like.

cc132 · 2012-05-26T05:51:49.484735+00:00

They do this to their beef too. Shit is delicious.

TheExtroll · 2012-05-25T22:42:05.921256-07:00

It's hard because you might accidentally allow yourself to be convinced of complete fucktardism.

throwdownandwayaway · 2012-05-25T22:05:20.960160-07:00

"Stop being a cunt, because I love you." or "Even though u fat I still think u cute.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-26T03:29:25.232662+00:00

I agree. The longer he goes without learning them, the more he will hate himself and the worse it will get. People need to go through shitty, uncomfortable, awkward, and sometimes terrible things. It builds a suit that helps us march through these elements. I'm sure talking to a shrink would help, I'm just saying it's not the only way.

lalalindsey · 2012-05-26T03:15:01.623416+00:00

I actually prefer to be ignored instead. There's a day or two of "aw, hell no" but it makes me feel less invested on the next promising victim. And that's a good thing.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-26T03:12:03.770035+00:00

Maybe he should feel bad about himself. Imagine putting your hand on a hot stove and taking painkillers because your hand hurts. Wouldn't it be better to just take your hand off the stove? My point being, although his problem is circular (low self esteem -> cant get laid -> low self esteem) He could build up self esteem by fixing himself up physically and making small talk. I bet the first time a chick flirts with him and he flirts back is going to totally stroke this guys ego. Sure he'll fuck it up, but I'm talking baby steps.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-26T03:08:06.592066+00:00

You're right. He should sit there and cry about it to someone for $200 a session. Lots of us have fixed social anxiety issues. I'm a little shy when talking to someone intimidating irl, but nothing like before. Even if he's going up against years of bad wiring, he can still help himself.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-25T20:04:38.246476-07:00

Atleast he's got some jerk it material for his shame shower.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-25T20:03:49.627232-07:00

This chicks a heartless cunt, fuck her.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-26T03:02:30.622524+00:00

He doesn't need a shrink. He just needs to work out, dress better (both subreddits) and start forcing himself to make small talk with pretty girls in the real world. Maybe read a book on toxic shame and he should be fine.

well_it_looks_like · 2012-05-26T02:58:45.141226+00:00

Asking her out for a cup of coffee is pretty brilliant. That would give you the opportunity to sit next to her and talk.

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