Disabled my account for awhile due to a family thing, question about restarting old conversations

Medicalli · 3 months

Being motivated means more than forcing yourself to go to the gym, or do that assignment, or talk to that stranger. It means forcing yourself to do what's best for yourself. Sometimes, motivating yourself to take it slow for a day* is just as important as pushing yourself forward.

I applaud you, so long as you took care to avoid needlessly worsening your injury.

*Don't misinterpret this as an excuse to slack off, of course. Plenty of things one can do while injured that are still constructive.

tempN7 · 3 months

I appreciate the advice, but I think I'm getting a bit mixed up.

Like, I invest myself too much in them. My problem is that, instead of having a relationship as an ADDITION to my life, I do the opposite. I focus my life on the relationship. Which causes all sorts of conflicts with other aspects of life, and makes breakups painful, as it's like half my life is gone.

Your advice is great, but a bit off key as well. Perhaps my fault for being unclear.

Regardless, I wish us both best of luck with our ordeal.

tempN7 · 3 months

I don't expect ANY people, regardless of gender, to be rational and mature decision makers, haha.

tempN7 · 3 months

Both would be college freshmen, due to my situation.

throwdiggit · 3 months

All I'm going to say is that dumping someone can often be harder than being dumped. Stay strong and keep with it. Try focusing on why you broke up with him and what was avoided.

One important thing is to find things to do. I just got dumped and the hardest part is filling the time that I used to spend with her. I'm sure once I find something to do I'll be focusing on the breakup less.

SonOfSamJackson · 3 months

What time is the dance class? Do you and her have free time either before or (preferably) after? If you can set the meeting right after the dance class, it's convenient for both of you as you're already there anyway. Hell, if the class is the last thing both of you have in the day, why not go out for a bite to eat, or a drink.

I'm not sure how I feel about asking her out during a dance. Might be a bit safer to ask her out after the class instead of during a dance.

throwitawaynaooo · 3 months

In my opinion, don't mention the 'stilted/awkward' conversation. It might have just been in your head. Lets say she didn't think it was awkward. If you mention it, she might 'notice' it next time you talk.

If things are ACTUALLY awkward, you AND her will be able to tell.

tempN7

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