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Are color E-ink readers coming out soon? by Depressed_Downvoterin gadgets

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

That's the tech unfortunately. It's the best e-ink currently has to offer. Also, I hear it looks decent in sunlight.

Are color E-ink readers coming out soon? by Depressed_Downvoterin gadgets

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

Chinese company Hanvon makes one. Large size too. Looks like it'd be great for textbooks.

A male high school student was suspended for wearing girls’ clothing by drewiepoodlein ainbow

[–]litui 5 points6 points ago

The fact that it'd piss the teachers off is really the only shitty part. If it was perfectly okay to cross-dress (or if prescribed clothing for each gender stopped being an issue) their actions wouldn't have caused a disturbance.

As it stands, they were helping by challenging the norm even if acting obnoxious while doing so.

Poly Webcomics? by FollowerofLokiin polyamory

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

I feel it's still finding its footing but there are some folks in my town who write http://polyficomic.com/ .

Through some recent personal sex exploration, I'm positive I am not one hundred percent heterosexual. How do I go about explaining this to my current boyfriend? by VisibleCuntin bisexual

[–]litui 0 points1 point ago

I'm sure there are differing opinions on the matter, but personally I feel it's important that he knows who you are, even if you don't plan on doing anything about it.

Through some recent personal sex exploration, I'm positive I am not one hundred percent heterosexual. How do I go about explaining this to my current boyfriend? by VisibleCuntin bisexual

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

Honesty in a relationship is critical. You shouldn't be afraid to tell your significant other anything. =)

Catching a guy looking at tranny pornography by stone500in talesfromtechsupport

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

The problem here is that he may be doing inappropriate things on company time with company equipment. This post could do without the judgements on the type of inappropriate activity and the porn materials he chose to browse. Here's what should go down:

You catch him browsing inappropriate materials on a support call. Then, if you care that much, you notify his manager that you caught him misusing company equipment. It's then management's call what to do with that situation and you don't think about it any more.

What you don't do:

1) tell your coworkers and share laughs about the guy,

2) connect in without prior notification,

3) connect in repeatedly with no reason,

4) post videos of his private browsing to the public Internet whether or not it was on company time.

You've demonstrated here that you are just as guilty as him of misuse of company time and resources. You may also be treading into more legally questionable territory than he is.

For reference "tranny" is also pejorative (transsexual is much better) and really irrelevant.

Nebraska Woman Offers Graphic, Homophobic Rant During Lincoln's Anti-Discrimination Law Hearings by drewiepoodlein ainbow

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

My first thought was some sort of aphasia... then as she went on longer I realized she's just that stupid.

Calgary Comic & Entertainment Expo went well all considering by kwirky88in Calgary

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

I had a great time. Ran into some long lineups and disorganization, but saw a bunch of panels I wanted to see and enjoyed myself in spite of my anxiety in crowds. Good weekend all in all.

For reference everyone I talked to who got in had a great time with only minor complaints, most of which were resolved on Sunday.

How you deal with a homophobic friend. He has yet to respond. by Frothy_Anal_Mixturein gaymers

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

This line cracked me up. Totally saving it. :)

HELP! Husband is hurting because I slept with my friend. :( by CheekyPeachin polyamory

[–]litui 2 points3 points ago*

This. I was very honest with my girlfriend when she was seeing someone else for the first time. I was uncomfortable a lot and had a ton of personal shit to work through. Never once did I tell her to stop but she took things slow and reassured me often. She even offered to break it up but I refused to give up that easily (I'm a stubborn and infatuated boyfriend).

It's one thing to have the theory figured out. In practice, emotions are uncooperative until the underlying causes are all worked out.

Should I keep my head out of polyamory if I can't get over my alpha male hangups? by SomeWriterGuyin polyamory

[–]litui 4 points5 points ago*

For me, I just naturally don't trust other men as much as I trust women and this raises my hackles when my girlfriend dates men. That said, I realize it's my issue and can be overridden by trust in my girlfriend. It doesn't matter who she dates if I can trust her to make good choices.

Chances are anybody she dates is actually going to be someone I have things in common with and can relate to on some level. It's like a secret club and my girlfriend and I have equal rights to choose members. Whether I chose the person or not, they are a member and probably for a good reason. I can't treat them like an outsider.

As long as you retain veto rights or instate unfair limitations on who your partner can date it's not an equal relationship. That said, my partner and I started out with a one penis policy on the condition that it was temporary while I worked through my issues.

Unless you're both completely okay with it, a one penis policy can't work in the long term.

I don't know if there are any pony fans in here but this made me feel all good on the inside. by Minimus32in polyamory

[–]litui 4 points5 points ago

Nope, not the only one! Brohoof

How common is polyamory and do you think I should hook up with an old coworker? by Tzeentch99in polyamory

[–]litui 0 points1 point ago*

This is contestable on philosophical grounds, and much revolves around which definition of polyamory is used.

See wikipedia for thoughts that explain some of the common views on separation of the two relationship ideas.

Let me rephrase the original statement to be more open to varying views on the situation:

Make sure your definition of polyamory coincides with that of your potential partners so that differences in definition don't bite you in the ass down the road ;).

edit: More on the varied definitions of open relationship, via xeromag:

OPEN RELATIONSHIP: 1. Any relationship that is not sexually monogamous. 2. Any relationship that permits "outside" sexual entanglements, but not loving or romantic relationships. Commentary: Some folks use the term open relationship as a synonym for polyamory. To other people, the term excludes polyamory, and is used specifically to describe relationships which are sexually non-monogamous but which still expect that the people involved will not fall in love or engage in romantic relationships outside the couple, as for example with many swinging relationships. It's important to be careful when using this term, as it may carry very different connotations for different people.

I probably should heed this warning =).

How common is polyamory and do you think I should hook up with an old coworker? by Tzeentch99in polyamory

[–]litui 0 points1 point ago

I say make sure you want the same things here too. Open relationship does not necessarily equate to polyamory. Find out what the limitations will be if any and make sure you're okay with them.

i love watching her fall in love by hardfemmein polyamory

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago*

Yeah I went through some of that too. You don't want to end up being the platonic friend-zoned person. I think that's about establishing a good pattern too. Keep at it and as long as romantic and sexy times continue as normal (assuming you're already having romantic and sexy times) you'll become more assured of your standing. =)

Remember you don't have to lower your standards to be poly. If sex is important to you, make sure (through communication and good decision making for yourself) that you're getting what you need from your relationships. Be prepared if she's in a new relationship for her to be distracted for a little while though.

i love watching her fall in love by hardfemmein polyamory

[–]litui 5 points6 points ago*

Strange feeling being anxiety? I get that sometimes. For me it was definitely that I wasn't feeling secure enough about my own place in her life or her intentions.

Takes time and security. I needed a pattern of good outcomes (notably that in spite of other things going on in each of our lives we kept coming back to each other) to feel secure about our situation. As analytical as I am, I still needed that conditioning.

Rather than rely on a rule about exclusivity to keep us together, we are choosing to be with each other not to the exclusion of others, which was scary for awhile until it set in that we could trust each other with that responsibility.

Watching the same situation unfold right now with my girlfriend and her lover and surprisingly comfortable with it all.

(no timelines defined or thoughts that it will only be me again in this situation though, and again I'm comfortable with that)

Every time. by SenseiCAYin geek

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago*

Cygwin is a pain in the ass. Mingw is where it's at for unix utils on the windows commandline. Lately I've just been installing the rubyinstaller devkit package and adding the mingw\bin directory to my path.

Free post secondary, at cost of more tax. Not the worst concept! by Stanislaw1986in alberta

[–]litui 5 points6 points ago

Are people really rich if there are so many of them? I don't know anyone in the ~100k range who isn't living in debt. The assumption here that everyone making >100k has tons of extra cash to burn annoys me.

Help me Poly. People always told me, be careful what you do, don't go around breaking young girl's hearts... by tossthatnamein polyamory

[–]litui 2 points3 points ago

Twitter-painted? Is that some new thing the kids are doing these days?

You mean twitterpated by chance?

Edit: also, fuck other peoples' opinions (and your perceptions of them). Do what you want to do.

Gamer Girls. by InfiernoDantein gaming

[–]litui 0 points1 point ago

You know what though, it's perfectly okay to talk about how much you like video games and it's even okay to get attention for it. Don't be shamed into keeping silent, and try not to too harshly criticize those who do appreciate the attention. They're still gamers.

Whenever I see a sign at a restaurant that says "No Added MSG" I think of this by Samvicein skeptic

[–]litui 1 point2 points ago

In my experience, most people (including myself until just a few years ago) have no idea these are the same things. I frequently hear, "pop X tastes better in Canada because we use real sugar instead of that High Fructose Corn Syrup crap" and variations.

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