Thanks those girls for making eye contact easy and dont let you look like a pervert

Battenberger · 2012-05-25T13:35:15.987706+00:00

Or how about you exercise some goddamned will power over your baser urges, and not blame women for your failings?

Seriously, it's not that fucking hard, and you won't leave women thinking that they have to cover themselves up to avoid getting stared at.

schnuffs · 1 day

It's picking at nits, I know, but the more common phrase is "suicidal ideation".

HarimadSol · 1 day

I saw Starship Troopers a few weeks ago and I really liked the unisex shower scene because there was nothing sexual about it. Men and women were naked and bathing, but they were talking and acting as if they were eating (e.g., doing monotonous activity, chatting).

When I did my military service (Swedish Airforce, 2000), it was exactly like that. We had a semi-open shower area, and one would just stroll in there and have a shower, while often having a casual chat with whoever else was showering, without regard for gender.

Out of the 50 or so people in my platoon, only once did someone need to be informed that staring is not appropriate, and the lt came down pretty hard on that guy.

In fact, the 5 or so women in my platoon couldn't care less, a few of the men felt a bit uncomfortable but they got over it with time.

FamnDamily · 2 days

No, like getting fired, or ostracized, or losing out on good will, or friendship, or relationships. I certainly wouldn't date a racist, no matter how attractive that person was otherwise.

FamnDamily · 3 days

People have an unfortunate tendency to conflated "Freedom of speech" with "Freedom of consequences from said speech", and then we get the whole "I have a right to say what I want, how dare you think that I'm a terrible person for saying terrible things?"

They demand respect, but expect not to have to give any, and any suggestion that "Hey, maybe that kind of language is hurtful and unproductive" just means that they bunker down and go into a "I am a champion of all that is just and holy and I stand against the PC trying to control me!"

blueysson · 5 days

Seat belts alone decrease risk of fatal injury by 72 %, seat belts in combination with airbags result in an even bigger reduction (Crandall, Olson, & Sklar, 2001).

JesusVonChrist · 8 days

I understand the principle and I largely agree with you. However, just because somebody was found not guilty (people are rarely declared to be innocent by the courts), that doesn't mean that there wasn't a legitimate complaint.

I don't think that anyone's arguing that an acquittal should automatically lead to prosecuting the plaintiff for making a false claim.

essohbee · 9 days

The single mothers are still meeting that expectation, so why would their existence provoke this sort of vitriol?

That's a very good questions. I'd guess it is in part due to that women don't get any "bonus points" for being mothers, that's just standard fare, in combination with the perception that women are obviously incapable of providing for their children.

That means that they have to be either mooching of the vaunted system, or they are stealing some poor man's hard-earned cash to buy shoes and refrigerators, whilst starving the children that the father is not allowed to see.

Caveat: speculation. Another aspect might be that single parents are disdained in general, but the lopsided distribution means that a single father is thought of as "Well, at least they have one parent", whereas a single mother is faced with "And where's the father?".

Finally, (and more guessing), there's the sex-factor and our puritanical view of sex and gender. What is a kid, but "undeniable" (ignoring things like adoptions and artificial insemination for the sake of the argument) proof that this person has had sex?

If there are two parents, then the sex was good and righteous and they were blessed with children. If there's only one parent, and that parent happen to be female, then she's a slut, and a slut who got herself "knocked up". In this world view, there are no happy accidents, only sluts with poor judgment.

essohbee · 9 days

Extremely simplified: Single mothers are considered to be women of questionable morals and who have made poor choices, while single fathers are considered good guys who stepped up.

It's rooted in the idea that women are supposed to take care of children, thus their child caring is "as expected" at best, whereas men as seen as going above and beyond their "duty".

So yes, it's just massive sexism.

pasmeme · 10 days

It's simple really, in the mindset according to reddit:

Generalizing about women: OK

Generalizing about men: NOT OK.

AgentParkman · 11 days

Det stora problemet är inte att hitta jobb i Stockholm, det finns rätt gott om sådana. Problemet är att hitta bostad, vilket är nästan omöjligt utan att antingen

Köpa bostadsrätt
Köpa svartkontrakt
Ge sig in i andra- eller tredjehandsdjungeln

DotCum · 12 days

If it isn't scientific, it is useless as a diagnostic tool. Psychology has worked hard to get away from the unscientific guess-work of Freud and his contemporaries.

While there are some correlations in inkblot responses and some disorders, it is of very limited diagnostic use and the Attorney's Textbook of Medicine state that "results do not meet the requirements of standardization, reliability, or validity of clinical diagnostic tests, and interpretation thus is often controversial"

DotCum · 12 days

It's invalid because it is unscientific hogwash

cinematic_is_horses · 16 days

Here's one from Iowa State University (via University of Illinois).

Another by the same author.

Different author, only abstract available for free.

Wikipedia states ""Blowing off steam" may reduce physiological stress in the short term, but this reduction may act as a reward mechanism, reinforcing the behavior and promoting future outbursts." and cites 4 different papers.

1ofthosepeskyswedes · 16 days

Det är till och med värre än så, momsen varierar beroende på vilket county (ungefär motsvarande svenska kommuner). I t.ex. New York varierar skatten från 7 till strax under 9 %.

Det stämmer också att butiker ytterst sällan bakar in momsen i priset på hyllan, så det får man räkna ut själv. Särskilt spännande blir det när man ska på restaurang, och priserna är exkl. både skatt och förväntad dricks.

Så om det står t.ex. $10 på menyn (utgår från New York Citys skattenivå), blir det $10 + ($10 * 0,08875) + ($10 * 0,20) = $12,89. Inte så stor skillnad, men nog för att ge huvudbry första gången man är med om det.

allthewrongways · 19 days

I had a psych teacher who, when covering the Big Five, took great pains to stress that introversion is not better or worse than extroversion. It is merely a question of from whence one draws "energy", either from within (introversion) or from without (extroversion).

He felt that it was his duty to clarify this, as he taught at a university that is primarily an engineering school and that a lot of his students were introverted; he did not want them feeling like there's something wrong with that.

higuys112 · 22 days

I was on SSRI-style anti-depressants for a few years, and while I experienced unpleasant side-effects, cognitive impairment was not one of them.

aerin_sol · 22 days

DID SOMEBODY SAY SLAVERY? BECAUSE AS A WHITE MAN I HAVE LOTS OF OPINIONS ABOUT THAT AND HOW IT RELATES TO AFFIRMATIVE ACTION!

EhsAreEhs · 22 days

I'm not even sure what's worse: Being a massive, unapologetic shit heel, or the sycophantic masses fighting over every nugget of verbal poop he barfs out?

IAngel_of_FuryI · 27 days

And help him get over her so they can be friends, they cant be friends at least not in a healthy way with such a (at least one way) destructive relationship.

I'm not sure that there's any way she can do this, other than perhaps acting so cruelly that he doesn't want anything to do with her.

Other than that, I agree, they need to spend some time apart.

IAngel_of_FuryI · 27 days

I agree insofar that she's not good for him, and she might not understand or care about how hurtful her behavior is. I get that he's feeling hurt, and I sympathize with him.

However, she's not dishonest, and it's entirely his choice to keep associating himself with her. Tactless as she may be, she is not leading him on.

So, he has two choices: either truly make peace with being her friend and nothing beyond that, or move on. No point in staying friends with someone if it hurts.

Doing what she is doing is pretty much the exact opposite she should be doing if she genuinely wanted to help him, no idea if she actually gets that or not though.

Help him with what, though? They are at diametrically opposed positions; she can't give him what he wants (love) and it doesn't sound like he can give her what she wants (friendship).

JealousGirlfriendF · 28 days

I asked whether or not he'd be able to control himself around her, and he went silent. I asked whether or not he was sexually attracted to her, again, silence. About a minute later he replied "...I don't want her staying with me because it would jeopardise our relationship."

This is, believe it or not, a good sign. Realizing one's weaknesses and taking active steps to counter them is a good thing. A lot (most?) of people think that their partner should "automatically" ignore all potential mates, but reality has shown us that that often isn't the case.

My gut feeling is that if one is in denial about this "Oh, I could never cheat, we're just friends!", the risk is much higher of it eventually happen. On the flip side, if somebody says to themselves "I am being tempted, and I know my weakness. Rather than to risk giving in, I shall simply remove the temptation.", they are much more likely to be able to resist.

It's a bit like trying to stay on a diet: rather than going to a cafe and hoping that you will have the strength to avoid pastries, you simply don't go to the cafe. :)

IAngel_of_FuryI · 28 days

She's explicitly telling you that she has no romantic feelings, nor does she ever see herself having romantic feelings for you, so why are you complaining about friendzoning and wondering if she knows what she's doing.

Not only does she know what she's doing, but she's telling you what she's doing. Be her friend if you want to, but stop hoping that one day she'll turn around, she never will. If it's too painful, cut her out of your life.

In either case, you have to move on.

Ygdrowen · 1 month

Inte den mest opartiska källa, men Securitas åkte nyligen på att betala 8000 kr i skadestånd i liknande sammanhang.

eirttik23 · 1 month

Don't worry about that one, he or she is just a miserable person and doesn't feel happy unless others are equally miserable.

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