Information on HPV for men?

slcStephen · 2012-05-25T18:53:25.358603+00:00

Thank you.

ButImaGeologist · 2012-05-25T18:49:27.408223+00:00

Oh gawd! I can't un-read this!

sigma89 · 2012-05-25T18:45:26.011418+00:00

Whenever I hear "All men like x" I automatically translate this in my head to "Most men like x". It's just a thing I do. I assume they are just remarking on trends. I don't get offended by it.

That's how I sometimes write also. I mistakenly use the word "all" or "never", I get a bunch of down votes, realize my mistake, and edit my comment. Although I'm getting better at using "most" or "sometimes" instead.

slcStephen · 2012-05-25T18:42:50.409611+00:00

From what I know: there are 20+ strains of HPV, only a few cause cancer, and a few cause genital warts.

Are you saying, by age 26, most people have been expososed to "one or more" strains of HPV?

jabies · 2012-05-25T18:35:02.817836+00:00

I find that when I date emotionally healthy people, then I can really trust them. And then I become more confident about "us", and more open-minded about things they want to do. For me, it's not about what she does for a job, it's about, whether she is trustworthy.

beccabeast93 · 2012-05-25T18:28:53.417881+00:00

Haha. We broke up long ago. We had some other incompatibility issues. But she was a sweet girl. She played a very big role in my "life development". She was an opportunity that I did not want to miss, even though emotional intimacy terrified me at the time. (I really like intimacy now!)

A_Door_Bell · 2012-05-25T11:26:35.318027-07:00

It's different for every man:

Liquor
Beer
Jerky
Fishing lures
Ammo
Some collect baseball hats.

worried_needanswers · 2012-05-25T18:16:39.355495+00:00

A deeper understanding of why guys watch porn will not cure you of your insecurities. Which is where I think you are at. However I will try to give you some helpful information.

Some guys like variety, and porn provides that. Honestly, when I'm satisfied with a gf, I never watch porn. But I have been with many girlfriends where I felt they were not open to my kinks. Needless to say, I did not stick around, as I recognize that these are not just wants, they are my needs.

He may not feel like he is in a safe place to talk about his sexuality with you. He might feel like he cannot ask you for what he really needs. I mean, most men like their partner to be very verbal, moaning, talking dirty, squirming, and being very active. Can you do this for him? Some men get bored with passive girls in bed.

And men are constantly demonized for wanting to try something a bit different in the bedroom. Their wives say it's "dirty", society say the men are "perverts", when the men are just curious and want to see what it's like. Can you provide a safe place and encourage him to talk about what he really wants?

Sooooo....provide a safe place for him to talk frankly about his needs. Don't judge him, and try to do some of the things he wants. You don't have to do everything, but you should try a few things at least once. It's probably not as bad as you think it is.

I'm wondering if it's still possible to love your wife.

Of course he can still love you!!

Does porn lead to cheating?

No.

A confident, healthy person is not threatened by porn. It is an image of a person he will never meet. It is a fantasy, like a book of fiction.

beccabeast93 · 2012-05-25T18:11:55.421676+00:00

Wow. My advice has never been called "spectacular" before. Thanks.

You stick with him during the good and bad times, AND you remind him, when a time presents itself, how you stuck with him through the bad times.

As a guy who used to have intimacy and self-esteem problems, this is what worked for me. But I had to tell my gf to remind me. I needed help changing how I viewed her and other relationships. I asked her to tell me: "I am not your ex. I am B. I am a different person. I will not treat you like your ex did. Do you see how I'm still here for you? Now kiss me you silly man."

Sometimes she had to shake me gently, but it worked. It eventually got through to me, after I stopped fighting her mentally. I had to work to open up my heart, and that was very painful. A lot of crying was involved during those dark times. Keep in mind I was a rather large body builder at the time and she was this skinny waif of a girl.

Pretty funny image if you can imagine her shaking me and me crying. lol. But I'm glad I went through it all. My relationships, and my life, is much better now.

ArtemisSiri · 2012-05-25T18:05:13.076554+00:00

"At its core, it's a bodily function. It's a necessity. It's such a powerful drive and I think because we [women] don't have testosterone in our systems, we don't understand how hard it is," she said.

There you go. Women can really enjoy sex, but women don't have the all-consuming testosterone drive that many men have. Some men have really strong sex drives, and it can be a real inconvenience.

"My prejudice was that the ideal man is a woman in a man's body. And I learned, no, that's really not. There are a lot of women out there who really want a manly man, and they want his stoicism," she said.

I've had bi girlfriends tell me they get tired of all the drama when they date women.

beccabeast93 · 2012-05-25T17:45:15.475718+00:00

Never in my life have I met someone so in tune with their emotions while also so out of touch with their self esteem.

The problem here is not his very emotional nature. I think the problem is his low self-esteem, which causes emotional outbursts. Help him address his confidence issue. Only he can address his issues, but you can support him. He might need therapy.

Have you talked about things in his past which might still bother him, or affect his self-esteem in ways he didn't realize?
Why does he fear you leaving him? What in his past makes him think this even though he has no evidence to support this?
What else does he fear?
Just talk about things. His past. His childhood. His other relationships. Were they abusive? What happened? Who abused him?

I'm a guy. I'm in touch with my emotions. That does not mean I'm emotional or dramatic. I'm very confident, and I'm even-tempered. I don't have outbursts. Ok, rarely I have a minor outburst.

SuperSleuth2 · 2012-05-25T17:39:56.927719+00:00

40M here with ED. I'm healthy, I work out several times per week, yet I still have high blood pressure and ED. I take viagra I get from Canada. It's a lot cheaper. There is not much else I can do to address it, besides keep my weight down. If I forget to take a pill before sexy times, I just jump in the bathroom, take a pill and we have foreplay for 30 minutes. By that time I'm ready to go, no problem.

Tell him it happens and it's not a big deal.
If he forgets to take a pill, just be patient and make out for 30 minutes.
HBP and ED has a genetic component. As you can see, I'm a healthy weight, yet I still have issues. It just happens sometimes.
If he is taking an ED pill, and it's not lasting long enough, or he's not hard enough, ask to go with him to the dr and try something else.
I have no problems giving my girl a vigorous pounding. :)
If he's using condoms, look for a thinner one here. Condoms really do kill a lot of sensation, and this becomes a bigger problem as a guy gets older.

So, is his issue physical, or mental? Is he just nervous? Or is he pressuring himself too much?

SMC3694 · 2012-05-25T17:18:07.235530+00:00

40M here. I'll tell you what I like.

Be direct with me. That shows you have confidence, and I am attracted to confidence.
I may be dominant, but if you act dominant to me, that shows confidence. Again, a turn on for me. It makes you interesting, and therefore, I want to get to know you.
Use the right words. If you want just FWB, say that. If you want to start with FWB, with possibly something long term if we work out, say that.
Guys who think you come on too strong probably have low self-confidence, and you don't want to date them anyway. Or they simply have not dated much.
I just saw your age. Yes guys your age can have low self-esteem. Just be nice but direct, like this: "Hi, I'd like to date you. Can I take you out for dinner Friday?" Nothing here is aggressive, you are just being direct.
Practice being direct over and over again. You will slowly get better at it, and you will learn to ID guys who are attracted to your confidence.
Don't say anything that a friend would say. Say something that a friend would NOT say, to make it clear you want to be more than friends. Don't say "I like you". Say "I want to date you."

In7thheaven · 2012-05-25T17:11:11.780229+00:00

On a night he's not in the mood and i am, i have just asked that he be there for me to just have him next to me playing with my breasts or talking naughty while I use my toy.

Your request is a perfectly reasonable compromise. Sometimes he just needs to make a little more effort for you.

Is there something else he's upset about? Your relationship? Or something at work? It sounds like his emotional battery might be drained. But you need your fun too. I think there is more to the story here.

Can you ask him when he's has energy to help you out? Maybe in the morning after he's had enough sleep?

babynancybotwin · 2012-05-25T17:06:26.492434+00:00

Any way to avoid the potential awkwardness?

Yes. Get a hotel. Your "friendliness" will likely be mistaken for "flirtiness". Try not to put yourself in those situations where something can be taken the wrong way.

HummusBandit · 2012-05-25T16:31:47.369509+00:00

First, no one can predict when the solar storm peak will be. It's highly variable. 2014 might be the estimated center of the likely peak, it could peak between 2012 and 2017. We just don't know.

But here's my take on what will likely happen in the US after a bad solar flare.

A solar flare will knock out power in many cities and it could take 4-6 months to manufacture and make more transformers and restore power to my house (in a good sized suburb). The National Geographic article in June 2012 says the US does not have enough transformers to replace the thousands that are expected to be blown if we have a large solar storm. But I don't expect total collapse in the US. There will be some panic at first, more crime in high crime areas anyway (inner cities) but in general, people will settle down and get used to having no power for a while.

It could take up to 12 months for remote areas to get power. The larger cities will get fixed first, since replacing just one transformer could restore power to thousands of people at once.

It's worth reading the article from National Geographic, June 2012, because it has a graph of the power of each solar flare since 1859, I think. 1859 was the most powerful on record, ever. Telegraph lines could power themselves with no power whatsoever, and they came in clearer than with batteries.

The NG article text is here but the neat graph is a fold out, and I did not see it online. There are many graphs which count the number of sunspots. The graph in NG shows the power of each solar flare as measured from earth.

elasto · 2012-05-25T15:13:22.487679+00:00

From the Netflix page:

In an avant-garde soliloquy, investigative journalist Michael Ruppert details his unnerving theories about the inexorable link between energy depletion and the collapse of the economic system that supports the entire industrial world.

Did Michael Ruppert base this show on Mr. Diamond's book?

Or is the movie this one from National Geographic?

elasto · 2012-05-25T15:11:41.507092+00:00

Is it really fortune that I can think ahead and see that the light at the end of the tunnel is actually another oncoming train? Is it really fortunate that I have foresight?

elasto · 2012-05-25T15:10:32.697614+00:00

Yep. Always have a "rainy day fund" when things go bad, whether it's money, food, water, or something else you have stored up.

elasto · 2012-05-25T13:58:14.021246+00:00

I read the inhibition of PDE5 creates more nitric oxide, which reduces inflammation. Was my source wrong?

getback101 · 2012-05-25T13:38:53.743206+00:00

These days, in Michigan, a college degree does not guarantee you a good paying job, but your job will be more stable through the recessions that are guaranteed to come. The majority of Michigan's jobs are in manufacturing, and those are highly susceptible to recessions. When a recession comes, the mfg jobs are the first to go.

People who end up with a lot of college debt can reduce their debt by managing their money a bit better. Will you die if you have cheap Ramen noodles instead of expensive pizza? No. Will you die if you don't get that new cell phone each year? No. Reduce your expenses, increase your income, to help manage debt.

People who drop out of college simply lack motivation. I cannot help you with that as motivation comes from within you. I was always driven to get a college degree because I perceived it as my BEST way out of poverty.

Algernon_Asimov · 2012-05-25T13:25:11.779692+00:00

I think drug counselors would be even more needed even if just pot were made legal. Plus, the US is missing all the taxes from these drug transactions.

I have yet to see any study that has good evidence that pot is addictive. I have also read in science magazines that substance abuse tends to run in families, suggesting it is partially genetic.

chasevincent · 2012-05-25T13:00:10.468718+00:00

When it becomes an epidemic, affecting the majority of a population. I tend to speak up (on the internet) when someone else's bad behavior affects me.

78% of Americans are overweight or obese. I think the WHO has an accurate estimate here. It's an unpleasant fact that people will get quite angry about. I believe the people who get angry about facts do not want to face reality, because facing reality means they might have to admit they are wrong, and they might have to do work to fix themselves.

elasto

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