Out of the blue message from my ex, now living on a different continent. I'm confused and not sure how to respond.

Jimmy_MacThrowaway · 3 days

Good but I'd like to acknowledge that they taught me a lot of stuff (good or bad) and end on a good/neutral note.

Jimmy_MacThrowaway · 4 days

"You've contributed immensely to the person I am today. However I have no desire to rekindle our relationship now or in the foreseeable future".

crazyman50000 · 4 days

Yup. I always wondered why it was difficult connecting with people immediately but I realized:

If you share too much too soon people feel awkward.
You must get through boring small talk and eventually gain enough trust to share more intimate details.
There must be some mutual interest for a friendship to develop. One sided relationships don't work.

This coming from someone who used to be rather socially awkward. Learning how to converse is like riding a bike and the more you do it the better you'll become at it.

Put yourself out there, don't be too self-conscious (what do you have to lose with strangers?), and be genuine. Seems to have garnered me some good peeps.

totesmcgoats77 · 5 days

You've heard the rational advice. How do you feel about giving him more time? Is he worth it and are you willing to discuss further issues as soon as they pop up?

bromophenol_blue · 5 days

Why aren't you having a discussion with him about this?

noahdamus · 7 days

Those are two separate and independent things.

Some people get bit more. Some people do not develop the bump because they do not have an "allergic reaction" to the mosquito saliva.

ilikedemilikedemalot · 8 days

You didn't want a relationship with her but was hurt 'cause she found someone else?

Your intentions weren't clear to her and she moved on. Next time just talk to them about what you're trying to figure out and see how it goes.

Everyone has a few of these events in their lives and it prepares them to be a better partner in the future. You're young and this won't feel too terrible in awhile.

forzan · 10 days

Need 2 guest passes. Everyone I know shelled out for the electronic download!!

I don't have the cash to buy the full game at the moment and also my boyfriend is on the fence. I thought we could play the guest pass starter edition and see how it goes before making the investment.

Thanks in advance!

Edit: Got 2 keys, Thanks Oh_Okay!

throwingaway2299 · 11 days

I just thought it was very eloquent and well written. Are the zombie pills the only thing that works?

It definitely sucks and perhaps your reaction this/that week might have been due to the pills? I would try to take care of yourself first and get things in order before pursing either girl. But as far as I'm concerned the LDR crush is acting very maturely and your g/f has no right to tell you to stop taking a helpful medication you NEED because of your affliction.

marma182 · 11 days

They sound like they hit slow-motion fast-forward on their high school relationship while going to college.

There's reason 9/10 HS relationships don't work out. It's because you two were immature, incompatible, or changed. Yet you seem to keep doing just barely enough to languish on. Let it go.

abor · 13 days

Thats some crazy talk there. Be cordial and pretend nothing happened.

throwawayforanonymou · 14 days

What wasted said. It'll hurt and you'll remember it as the hardest shit ever. But then when you're on your next great relationship you'll think back and wonder wtf..lol I was n00b.

I'm being completely serious. It's good for you. You'll learn from that.

AddictiveBehavior · 14 days

Good for you. He's not going to magically realize how awesome you are and want a relationship even if you do have sex.

AddictiveBehavior · 14 days

I disagree about the sex part. He seems chill and might be a good mess-around buddy. But it doesn't seem like he wants a relationship, if that is indeed what you are looking for.

Have a good time and see other people.

xyzthrowaway · 14 days

As someone on the upside to this. You realize what you want to pursue later on because you were so lazy. Chase it if you can, even if it means using up your savings and almost going destitute. Because in the long run, doing something you like + making money >>> doing something you don't care about and making money.

Unless you plan on retiring at 40.

rachiedoubt · 14 days

It's tough. You will look upon this time later on as a difficult moment you were able to persevere through.

ihaverights2 · 14 days

That's pretty messed up. Sounds like he waited for you and is getting revenge for what you did (immature).

You guys are officially married? I'm not sure. Do you really want him back? Regardless of what has transpired between him and this other woman? I guess you could give him a chance but don't get too invested too quickly.

fdauttwiltf · 14 days

Sounds like friendly banter.

As far as I'm concerned you can't be there 100% of the time. If he wants to cheat he will. Snooping around does nothing but make more useless drama.

Soverystupidx · 16 days

I'm gay too. Chill out. I assumed that because that's what the majority of posters are unless otherwise noted.

Soverystupidx · 17 days

Just because you "suspect" your partner of infidelity is not justification for your actions. Moreover because this was a woman and the fact you were "not sexually attracted to her" doesn't mean it isn't cheating. You're simply trying to justify and rationalize what you did.

You simply need to man up, tell your partner, and deal with the consequences of your actions. This has NOTHING to do with how he's behaving and everything with how you are conducting yourself. Ultimately you two need to decide whether you are able to be together through thick and thin or not.

As far as his "closure" sexcapade, were you two in a committed monogamous relationship a few weeks after meeting? Did you have the discussion? If not then it might be in extreme bad taste but there really isn't much you can be pissed at him for.

Gymnophoria · 18 days

5 tits

FuzzyRarity · 21 days

Document and report this shit right now to your school councillor or parents. This is how people crack and start shooting assholes as school.

reefine · 21 days

6 months is quite a bit of time and it seems like you've done a lot of self-reflection and implemented a lot of changes.

IMO it may be worth sending her a note to see how she is and to gauge how receptive she is to reconciling. e.g. "Hi, how are you doing? I know I wasn't the greatest guy and I've done a lot of reflecting. Can we catch-up soon?"

Then the ball is in her court whether to give you another chance. If not then you are still a more mature and better person than you were. Good luck to you!

zbrinz · 21 days

Quitting a person is like quitting a drug. If you keep using it, you'll relapse. If you quit cold-turkey, it'll get easier the more time passes.

zbrinz · 22 days

She doesn't want a relationship with you but is having a hard time letting go of you. One of you will have to be the stronger person and put a stop to this. Unless you want to be a doormat and wait till she finds someone better before losing interest in you.

abor

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