Seriously, today sucks

davesfakeaccount · 20 days

Just want to say that all the redditors on this thread responded so well to davesfakeaccount! I think you have genuinely helped a person out. Brings tears to my eyes...

And Dave, you are awesome for being brave and strong enough to listen with an open mind to these people. Not to mention making and taking action on a plan to keep you on top of the fight. Excellent!

Trace · 21 days

"slipping" or relapsing is just that, a momentary derailing from the right path. Ask yourself, what triggered the urge? why did I let the urge become action? Was it worth it to go back to drinkin/drugging? Did my drinking/drugging improve the situation that led to the trigger? Did it make the situation of the trigger worse? Start to rationalize what you are doing with what you believe. But don't just give up and act like you can do nothing. You can. You have the power to change! Be strong. Be sober.

DrunkenMast3r · 22 days

There are a lot of resources out there. I personally have foun Smartrecovery.org very useful. There are many resources online there, including meetings and some are fairly late at night depending where you live. Their approach is different than AA, and may or may not work for you, but at this point, I think everything you can reach out to is important.

I guess I want to tell you something a little scary about what could happen. It happens so easily, so automatically, so invisibly that one day you wake and you realize that 10-20 years have passed and you are still exactly where you are today. I am DEAD serious about this. Drinking has literally stolen decades from me. What you are facing is a repeat of the same story that is familiar to a lot of us. You will literally be on this board asking for help, for guidence, for support, in 5, 10, 15 years if you do not really take what is happening in your life seriously NOW.

On the other hand, don't expect to be able to just change overnight, it is not going to happen. You have to learn to cope, to change your life, to accept yourself, to take back control (or learn it for the first time) of what and who you are.

Be strong, be sober!

theGord · 22 days

It's great to hear this. I honestly have not had 10 days sober since 2008. Hard to imagine. I mean, a lot of my friends drink weekly, get drunk weekly and so I imagine even those "normal" drinkers of the lot don't get to feel like you do.

In my case I feel very happy and less scared about completing a sober weekend than I did yesterday. Hearing you extoll the benefits of even 10 days helps. Thank you.

mrdeathclaw · 22 days

I agree with you. One of the thoughts that goes through my head is all the stuff I can/need to do. You know, those pesky goals that require work and daily attention. I don't know if I am actually lazy or if drinking has been killing my spirit. Anyway, thanks for the good points.

Trace · 23 days

and mine.

Trace · 23 days

excellent idea. I've been thinking about what I am going to do too. It's odd, a lot of thinks I think I enjoyed while drinking seem less enjoyable when I think about doing them sober. Video Games is one of them. Although, I must admit I perform much better playing them sober. Fridays are a good veg day, but I have found myself going grocery shopping on fridays and enjoying coming home with good foods (my favorite is a cheap block of brie and dry sausage with crackers--the best on the waistline, but aside from the alcohol, that is the worst thing I consume in a week). Your ideas are great, and I think I'll add entertaining my energentic dog and shopping and I'll be just fine. Oh, and hitting up /r/stopdrinking and smartrecovery.org. Those are a must.

Trace · 23 days

I'm more willing to go to aa than i used to be, but the smart program is hitting home with me. their approach is to teach me how to think and manage emotions and behaviors. It may not be all I need. Also I have some sober friends and friends that support mysobriety so I won't be alone on the weekend.

Trace · 23 days

It's on the table for sure. I am looking into the times and places.

mepper · 23 days

"sexually confused?" That is rich. There is not much confusion about what we want sexually. The confusion is why so many others care.

Trace · 23 days

Thank you for your words of support. I really do appreciate it. I am sorry you slipped, but I know you are making this a learning experience. Be strong, be sober.

sobersandy · 23 days

Like you, I am, what I call a binge-drinker. Once I start I just keep going. This has been an issue for years. My relationship, recently dissolved, was the opposite of yours. He wanted me to simply control my drinking, apparently with choice, or will-power, so that I would drink normally. He and I went out to the bars, to parties, drank at home. He refused to allow me to call myself an alcoholic.

I never got better, and we broke up.

You don't have to like what changes are happening in your life, but I can't help but be envious. At least he gets it and is trying to help. You have a serious problem and you can change. With or without him.

Trace · 23 days

Thank you for that. You have just gone through it and I'm happy to hear you were able to do it. I will take your advice.

Trace · 23 days

sound advice. I have put them into a special category.

Throwawayboozie · 24 days

Wow that is a rough run of bad luck. You know what tho? You have a chance to really accept what fate has handed you. You lost your job to alcohol. It is as clear as the empties in your desk. Now, instead of going back to old habits, the same old job etc, you have a chance to do everything new and fresh.

vicereversa · 24 days

Just keep sober now. Don't focus on tomorrow, just now, you will not drink.

tbag12 · 1 month

you must a lot of exs

Trace · 1 month

thats a good list. thank you so much for posting it.

Trace · 1 month

this is a good post with things I need to hear.

I must be an alcoholic because I can't control my drinking. Drinking has been controlling me. I start drinking and I just don't stop. In the last month, I woke up once on my floor, no idea how or why I was there. I drove when I definitely should not have been. Scared the crap out of my passenger....I can still hear him yelling at me to look out. Thankfully we and everyone else made it safely.

I compulsively think about drinking...it's always on my mind. I don't do things with my time...just drink, or wish I could.

I have a real problem with doing meetings but, I'm going to find where and when they are because I haven't been able to change on my own. It's such a downer though to go and admit, "Hey, I'm a loser who boozes and I just can't control my shit." But that is the fact, and I got to admit it.

trueXrose · 1 month

i'd read 'em.

Trace · 1 month

I do like cucumber juice. And mixing in some seltzer is a great idea.

Trace · 1 month

Thank you for this. I moved into a different house about 6-7 weeks ago. Since then I have had better control of my diet and bike to work. I've lost 10-12 pounds. First time I've moved in the right direction with my weight for years. So ya, I have a little experience with that.

I think one of the problems I have with not drinking is that I am not really sure what the benefits are? does that make sense? I mean ya, I won't be hung over or feel guilty, will save money, won't be making a fool of myself. etc, but those are mostly things that will disappear. What are the positive benefits?

I know there are many, but it is hard for me to see them now. Generally, my justification for drinking has been, and it's so stupid, that I am just bored. I don't really seem to enjoy things the way I used to. I used to draw and write and enjoyed that, but now it just seems like work. I don't know if it's because I'm older, or if my drinking itself has caused me to loose interest and joy in things I used to enjoy. Certainly, I have psychological burden of guilt and shame because of my drinking, so maybe that is clouding my ability to enjoy things.

Anyway, I really know that I can't drink. I've know this for a long time. I have to make it stick.

Trace · 1 month

lol

I probably not going to eat too much sugar, but I am doing some juicing. So I guess theres sugars there.

Trace

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