Found a lump - which doctor in Sweden?

girlQ · 8 days

I would advice you to call either Sjukvårsupplysningen/Sjukvårdsrådgivningen or a nearby Vårdcentral and ask them who you should get in touch with.

5omnifer · 10 days

Lovely shots, I hope you feel better soon!

Sakatsu · 11 days

Meditation is one of those things that's been on my "I should start doing that" list for years but I never seem to get around to it...

FollowerofLoki · 11 days

My SO is... I guess an agnostic who finds spiritual stuff interesting but doesn't subscribe to any particular belief system. My OSO is culturally a Christian and ideologically tricky to figure out. I'm not sure what he is, though if I had to take a guess I'd say either an atheist or an agnostic Christo-pagan (hah). I could be completely wrong though.

djgfx · 11 days

I just saw this episode the other day, was super excited to see "Daniel" again.

Jahonay · 11 days

I've not felt jealousy of a partner's partner, because we're fairly new to this and my partners are both otherwise unpartnered. I have felt jealousy, however, when I've felt my SO's been neglecting me for favor of hanging with his friends. I imagine if a similar situation arose with a partner of my SO's, I would also feel jealousy. So really for me it's a matter of feeling that I'm being neglected while someone else is being favoured, whether the person doing it is a partner or a friend and whether the person being favoured is a romantic interest or not. In fact, I've gotten jealous because of my best friend having a new friend or partner a few times more than of something my SO does.

hope_full_ · 11 days

You've had a lot of answers already but I'll add mine anyway, just for fun.

The idea of polyamory was something that occured to me in my early teens, thought I didn't know the name for it yet. It was more of a "hey, wouldn't it be cool to have a BF and a GF at the same time"-type of thought. Although I realized this wasn't socially common, it never really occured to me that there was something "wrong" with it. The transition for me was more thinking about how to deal with it practically and discussing it with partners etc.
Yes. Actually I've never really experienced romantic jealousy. I've only been actively poly for a short time and so far my partners have no other partners, so I've not had "opportunity" to be jealous for that reason. However, I have in the past felt jealous when for instance my SO has gone out to hang with his friends when we've not gotten any quality time together lately. Usually I get past it easily, just by telling him about it and maybe arranging some plans for us to spend time together soon.
No, but I love them differently. My two relationships are very different in their nature, one is a long-term thing which will hopefully lead to marriage and babies and the other one is a relatively new thing which has no such prospects in the future. So naturally the type of affection I have for each of them is different also. As for them loving someone else more, it's not something I really worry about.
My SO to some extent has seniority, because he's the one I plan to live with etc. Since my plans are more interlinked with his, it becomes natural for me to give that relationship a bit more "weight". But we don't have a veto-policy or anything like that.
No, but I want them. I imagine I will have them with my SO and my OSO (and any other partners that may come in the future) will just be close friends of mommy (or of daddy in terms of my SO's partner).
They are unaware of it
I really don't know. For me it's more of an issue of having time for it than any comfort/discomfort at having multiple partners. I'm quite content with the two I have now, but I don't rule out more in the future. I imagine it depends a lot on the type of relationship, too. It might be somewhat easier to have let's say 3-4 partners that you live with than to have 3-4 partners that you don't live with but see often, in terms of time managment (but I don't think a situation like that is so likely for me). As another example, I have a friend in another country who I've a bit of a mutual crush with. If we were to get involved the relationship with consist of chatting and maybe a long-weekend trip per year or halfyear. Such a setup would naturally take up less of my time than for example a 3rd partner who lived in my city might.

ehsanologi · 13 days

Oh, there's a web shop! I may have to make an order at some point this summer, then.

hahnchensandwich · 13 days

Another ring, but not on the wedding-finger? Or maybe something worn in a chain around your neck if you don't mind wearing a necklace on a daily basis. A ring in a chain? Lol, ok, not very creative suggestions but I hope you figure something out!

mackalack · 14 days

I'll second the recommendation of Shankaboot. It's quite funny, too. :)

Confusedandlost123 · 14 days

I've never heard of baba meaning mother, only grandmother. What languages do they use baba as mother in?

might-as-well · 15 days

I know that feeling, hah. That's why I avoid reading people's answers to questions on there unless we have a pretty good score. So much to get pissed at! XD

might-as-well · 15 days

I think I mostly reacted to your last paragraph, asking why people like her feel the need to share their beliefs. I'd say most gals (and guys) who hang here regularly will probably agree with you on the topic of dominance in relationships. I do anyway. I know maybe a couple of girls who I know want a dominant partner, but even with them it's more a matter of "I prefer this type of dynamic" than "I think men are naturally superior".

might-as-well · 15 days

Look, I agree with you on the topic of dominant women and feminism but... She has a profile on a dating site which lets you expound on your answers to questions like this. Why should she have any less right to do so than anyone else, just because you deem her views to be ignorant? She didn't message you personally because one of your profile questions said you were a feminist or somesuch, you were the one who messaged her. Did you really expect her not to stand up for her beliefs when some random person criticises them out of the blue?

Ignorant people are ignorant, but if ignorant people want to put ignorant things in their OkCupid profiles to attract other ignorant people then that's their perogative and challenging them about it seem like it's just a great way to raise your own blood pressure without it leading to anything remotely constructive.

djjazzysteph · 15 days

That card is awesome!

SaintOfSuburbia · 21 days

I don't think that people chose their sexuality, but I do think we can chose (and be influenced by society in) how we percieve our sexuality. For instance, I'm bisexual and I think I've always been. However I think there are many factors of my life (artistic influences, people I've met, crushes I've had, the open environment I grew up in) that have made me, shall we say... more awarely bisexual. I think in a different set of circumstances I might have identified as "I'm straight but I used to get puppy-love crushes on my female teachers when I was a kid". It depends also on how you define gay, bi and straight. Let's say that someone is homosexual but heteroromantic (if that's possible, but it seems like everything is possible) or bisexual but heteroromantic and has no interest in a same-sex relationship, is it them fair to label the person as gay or bi when they might not identify that way in spite of their sexual attraction. And if they don't identify that way themselves, one might argue that they are chosing their sexual identity. I suppose what I'm saying is it depends also on whether gay and bi here is strictly a term for sexual attraction, which by most things I've heard and read seems to be innate, or for a person's sexual identity, which one might argue is chosen (even if one might disagree with a person for instance identifying as straight in spite of having some attraction to the same gender).

TL;DR: I was always bi but might have not realized it as much if my life had been different, and I really, really like to babble.

TheSilverLining · 21 days

While I think that it's much preferable to have friends, at least close friends, that you can be honest with without filtering but obviously learning to filter is very useful in one's larger social circle so I can kind of sympathize. I'm very opinionated myself but I'm also sort of shy so they end up canceling each other out, hah.

One thing to do might be to ask yourself "Will it help?" before you offer a piece of criticism. Will this person take what you're saying to heart, or at least take a moment to consider whether you may be right? Or will they simply be offended that you criticised them? It's a bit like correcting someone's language use; I have some friends who I don't bother correcting (either because I know they're already aware of what they do "wrong" and don't care, or because I know they wouldn't care even if they knew) but I have other friends who I know want to know (for instance people who have started learning my native language as adults and want to be corrected). I hope that analogy makes some sense.

SyrioBroel · 22 days

I was going to say "As a woman, fuck no", but I think you put it much more eloquently.

Bobbu · 22 days

Upvoted for truth and alliteration.

rectangular-rhombus · 23 days

A good reason to break up isn't by default a good reason not to sleep together though. My most recent breakup, for instance, was a result of wanting different things from the future and realizing we wouldn't work as a long-term (primary) relationship. I'd still happily bang him if we lived in the same city, though. Anecdotal, I know, but I'm sure many others have similar situations.

bdubs91 · 24 days

I am not an anything-in-social-science, but I remember hearing on the radio a few years back that in my country about 5% or 15% (can't remember which, hah) of those cases which were submitted for genetic testing to determine paternity actually had a different father. Now, these were obviously only cases where someone (the father, the mother, whomever) was uncertain about the paternity and seeing as how such a large percentage of even these "suspicious" cases proved rather than disproved paternity, one might guess that the percentage of children having a different father in the general population would be even lower. This is in Sweden, btw.

Sorry for the amateurish answer.

Minimus32 · 28 days

From what I understand, I'm a bi poly pegasis, but close enough! :)

Also, brohoof is an awesome word!

boris_veganofsky · 29 days

I totally know the feeling! I've been told I just come off straight, and people always assume I'm straight. Even people who have heard me drooling over the hotness of this or that actress, or make mentions of my ex-gf seem to continue the assumption sometimes.

The really funny thing is that during high school I was known as "the other X, you know, the dyke" to contrast me from another, more popular/sociable girl in my class who had the same name. People, for some reason, were convinced that me and my best friend were actually girlfriends (in spite of a lack of PDAs outside of platonic hugs and such), so it had more to do with that than with what vibe I give off I think. I got quite a giggle out of it when I found out a few years after graduation (hadn't a clue that people thought that when I was still in high school).

AdventurousAtheist · 29 days

That's brilliant! I'd not heard of explosion boxes before this post, it seems like a really good gift and fun to make. :)

jordangiraffe · 29 days

I didn't know that! They're also in our Swedish versions. I guess they must mostly sell the UK versions or something when they sell the books in English here.

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