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[–]Freefall_ 24 points25 points ago

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Sex.

[–]nuviiwillow[S] 1 point2 points ago

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I will be there with his mother, his brother, my father and step mom... Not sure if that is an option...

[–]Drakan290 15 points16 points ago

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It's an option.

[–]geoffp82 9 points10 points ago

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It is always an option.

[–]lanismycousinArmy Retired 11b 6 points7 points ago

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Where there is a will, there is a way.

[–]rice_crust 2 points3 points ago

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You have to understand though, the one thing that was truly missing and can't be provided for by the forces was the presence of a female human being.

[–]naivemelodies 2 points3 points ago

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Seriously, get a hotel room and use it for an hour or two while they go to lunch or something. They will understand.

[–]chewd0g 0 points1 point ago

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You're doubting his inventiveness after so long.

[–]ohhellogRave 0 points1 point ago

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Wrong attitude.

[–]PirateKilt 13 points14 points ago

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Sleep.

[–]MikeyToo 8 points9 points ago

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A nice long hot shower - BY MYSELF

[–]redworm 7 points8 points ago

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BEER. good god the first thing I wanted when I left the depot was a cheeseburger and a beer. I'd made a friend in the platoon that had served in the navy for nine years so he knew all the good places to go in san diego. we went to hodad's in ocean beach, still in our blues, and had the most delicious beer and cheeseburger of my life

[–]Ninjamonkeysd 1 point2 points ago

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YES! Thank you Jesus! When I was reading this, and you got to the part about being in San Diego ( I grew up there) my brain was screaming "TELL ME THEY WENT TO HODADS!?!"

[–]jongleur 4 points5 points ago

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Food & Sleep.

More than likely he is not going to get a whole lot of free time at DLI. I didn't go there, but a friend of mine who did explained the process as being akin to learning to drink out of a fire-hose.

[–]rhicc 2 points3 points ago

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I'm waiting to get on the bus to go to basic right now. 3 things that would make my life better.. Cigarettes sleep and sex.

[–]Magold 2 points3 points ago

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Bring a newspaper from home, that was something I would have liked to have when i finished up bmt. You feel like you're in a whole different world during training, so catching up on things going on is nice.

[–]Captain_Trigg 1 point2 points ago

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Some smokers use Basic as an excuse to quit permanently (or at least, semi-permanently).

If your husband is a smoker, and still quite enthusiastic about it, handing him a cigarette in the car on your way to wherever will do wonders.

[–]chewd0g 2 points3 points ago

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As much as I can understand this, I would hope she is more supportive and emphasizes the quitting part.

[–]Y_U_No_F_OFF 1 point2 points ago

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I'd way until after graduation to do this, doing it on Family Day could be bad. They were handing out Article 15s for it in my platoon.

[–]nuviiwillow[S] 0 points1 point ago

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They sent out a massive packet with crap you guys weren't allowed to Have/do. Smoking, drinking, wearing civilian clothes, driving, electronics... the list went on and on.

[–]Captain_Trigg 1 point2 points ago

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Fair point. IET environment. Blah blah blah. It's been a few years.

[–]tittleton 1 point2 points ago

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Music, our division would sing "Three Little Birds" by Bob Marley at night

[–]_Kline 1 point2 points ago

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Sleep and sex. Never got my chance for the 2nd as it was my mother with my fiancee at the time. I did however fall asleep every moment I got in the car and even during the movie we went to see at I-MAX :(

[–]xaxers 1 point2 points ago

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Not having shitheads who felt that harassing me at all hours because of their insecurities and failures living three feet from me.

As for food and stuff:

Anything not made by the Army. Seriously, eating somewhere off post will taste goddamn delicious.

[–]nierlisse 1 point2 points ago

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He won't have a lot of free time at DLI, at least once he starts class. There's either plenty or nothing to do in Monterey, depending on what you're interested in. I spend most of my weekends at home trying NOT to think about school. Other than that, the Aquarium was cool (see if you can get in free, I know some people in my class did but I did not and it's almost 30 dollars a piece) and I like just walking around town. Most of the people I know either stay at home, go out to the few clubs, go to the mall, or go up to San Jose or San Francisco for the weekend. Also tell him to ignore the extremely jaded people at DLI. When I got there, all I heard was "you're going to hate it here!" "this place sucks!" "You will have no life and want to die!" and although sometimes I agree with all of those, I am still happy to be here, doing what I'm doing. Of course there are difficult days (obviously, considering the program) but he'll get through them. And assuming you'll be out here with him (or even not) the best thing you can do is be supportive and understanding when he doesn't have a lot of time to hang out with you. If my husband was anything less than awesome at that, I'd be having a more difficult time. Good luck!

[–]nuviiwillow[S] 0 points1 point ago

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I've gotten mixed reports on whether I will be able to move out there or not. If I can go out there I want to live on base. Is there an actual rule on these things? If I can go out there what is the general timeline on when?

[–]nierlisse 0 points1 point ago

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It depends on what language he has, at least it did for me (Navy) and I'm pretty sure it's the same service-wide. I was told that if a soldier is going to be stationed anywhere for less than 6 months, the military won't pay to move family out with him/her. I know some people here in the Spanish program had that problem, as that language is a 6-month program. Most other languages are longer than that (mine is 63 weeks, for example) so they paid for our moving expenses and everything. I don't know if he knows his language yet or not. In the Navy, we chose ours in boot camp, but I know with the other branches, students don't usually get to choose and I don't know when they're given their assignment. As far as living on base goes, there is no actual living ON base. There are a few small houses but I think officers get to live in those. The rest of us live out in Ft. Ord, which is an old military base and now holds a ton of military housing, community centers, PX and a commissary, etc. When he gets to DLI, he'll go to a Joint Service Indoc and they'll provide him with everything related to housing, Tricare, moving, etc. I got information there on the housing situation. The E-1 to E-4 housing is limited to two areas. The nicer area will take his entire BAH each month, while the other one is about $200 less. I live in the older houses (they are pretty ugly-looking, but I don't really care and I'd rather have the $200 extra a month to keep, to be honest) and all utilities are paid for, except for internet. When I got here, my husband was still living back home. It took about a month and a half for us to get everything done and him and our stuff totally moved. I know others have done it in less. It depends on what's available at the housing office when he gets here and how easy his chain of command makes things. I picked a house that was going to be available about a month after I got here, but there were others available sooner. The Navy was really good about letting me leave early for the day to run to the housing office for something, etc. I don't know about the other services. I hope that answered some questions for you! If you have anymore, just ask! :)

[–]nuviiwillow[S] 0 points1 point ago

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Yes that was very helpful, Thank you so much!

He scored in category IV so he will be there for the long haul! (He is actually hoping for Chinese or Korean)

I was speaking of the Fort Ord housing. My step mom was at DLI about 6 years ago but she was single so she didn't have to deal with the housing issues. I would agree with you about living in the older housing, especially since utilities are paid so I don't have to worry about heating/cooling costs. About how long of a daily drive is it? Also, would I need to get another car to do my errands around base or will my bike suffice? (When we were at Yuma Proving Grounds a bike was fine... Not the same story here at Fort Campbell)

How long did it take for classes to start for you after basic? I don't really understand how that timeline will work. Do they have a reception type period like basic? He says there are ~6 other men in his platoon at basic with the same MOS if that makes a difference. When he first thought about the military it was to go into band but the wait list to go to basic was so long because they wanted to have a "full class" does the same sort of thing happen with DLI? In my head it works similar to college, except instead of 2 semesters it is split into 4...

So when YOU got there you could have moved in relatively immediately? Less than say 2 weeks? I would be travelling cross country (from Ft Campbell area) and making stops to my family along the way. So this seems ideal.

Thank you so much for your patience dealing with me, I know I can be taxing!

[–]nierlisse 0 points1 point ago*

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We did not have a car for the first few months here and it sucked. They offer free bus passes to all of us living off-post so that's how I got to school. That part wasn't bad. You can get away with having one car; we do. I rarely drive to school (it's about a 15-20 minute drive) unless I have to for some important reason. If you like bike riding on hills, you will like it here; there is very little flat ground. And there is really nothing around here (the housing) except the commissary and a couple of community buildings like the gym and the library, etc.

Class start time is really varied. I started a month after I got here; some people had to wait 1.5 or 2 months, some started after a week or two; it really just depends on what class they've put him in. The first week for us is spent doing admin-type stuff (CAC cards, meal cards, orders, etc.) and then various Navy indoc things. His is probably similar. From what I understand about classes, the people who decide these things schedule classes to start at certain future dates and then say to each service branch "here is X number of slots for you, fill them or we give them away" and classes get filled pretty quickly. Its difficult to change languages (I've been told Air Force is just not allowed to) but we were able to in the Navy IF a spot was open.

Also it's not really like college at all; there are semesters per se, but it's according to each individual class's schedule. There are no semester breaks. Every class gets a class break of one week and gets to choose when to have that. There's also days off at Christmas and holidays but other than that, we're in school every day.

When I arrived I didn't go to the housing office right away. When I finally did, they showed me the houses that were available and what their move-in dates were and I could choose from any of them. There's no telling what he's going to find when he gets there (although its better to call and ask whats available rather than going in since its off-post and annoying to get to during the duty day) but the available houses change all the time so if he doesn't find something he likes, he can keep calling every day to see if something else comes up.

I don't mind helping you out; I tried doing research on this before I shipped to basic and came up with very little which was frustrating. I had to ask a lot of questions when I got here which I'm sure was annoying but given the lack of decent info...anyway if you have any other questions just ask. :)